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Monday, 17 May 2021

Long time, no hear.

Hi all, yes it's been a long time since I've written a post.  A big thank you to  all of those people who dropped me a line or commented on other blogs asking after me.

Well, where do I start! 

As mentioned at some point, hubby has been diagnosed with angina for a while now. He was put under the care of a  cardiologist who prescribed lots of additional tablets which hubby refused to take after a week. A) he sincerely believed nothing was wrong with him  B) he hated the side effects of the said  meds. C) he begged the question how do they know he has Angina when all the tests have been ok. 

The cardiologist said the definitive test was an angiogram but its considered an invasive procedure, so they tend to hold off doing it. Hubby argued he'd rather know beyond a shadow of a doubt. 

So 3 weeks ago,  after a blood/MRSA test,  covid test and shielding for 3 days I dropped him at the hospital for the angiogram. He phoned 6 hours later for me to collect him.  

To say hubby was in shock would be an under statement, despite his own father dying of a massive heart attack at 52 and  his mother having a couple of stents. Anyway,  it turns out he has a problem both sides of his heart. One blockage could be resolved with a stent but the other (80% blockage) will require a bypass due to its position. He was told not to arrange anything for the next 4 month's. 

Since the news last month, he has spoken with the cardiologists secretary and the boss where he works. Apparently his case has been discussed with a group of surgeons due to his diabetes.  The procedure is slightly different and more complex, which means he could actually end up with a double bypass,  but they do say it does give the best outcome. We've been copied in to all the letters and the secretary said once the surgeons have decided on the procedure, he will be called in for the op almost immediately. Hubby only works 2 days a week and has only just returned to work after being furloughed due to age and medical history.  His boss surprisingly, has been very thoughtful. He has arranged a medical retirement package to take him through to his 66th birthday next year. 

As you can imagine my plans have taken a back seat while we deal  with this.  He will need looking after for a short while, plus he wont be able to drive for a month after the surgery  I can tell he is worried as he keeps cracking jokes about dying. Only last night he poured a small glass of whiskey from a bottle my eldest daughter gave him recently, saying it would kill him to think he died without having tasting it! Highland Park 21 (November 2019 release) is worth over £200 and he said it's worth every penny. Apologies for the photo quality but it is on top of the wardrobe.

Take care. Tx 



27 comments:

  1. I am glad you are ok. I have been asking about you on people's blogs! (including one who didn't even follow you LOL) I am sorry to hear about your hubby's angina, and that your plans are a bit delayed. I hope that you've been ok otherwise, did you get your 2nd Covid shot? How is the reopening going in your area??

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  2. Bless you. Yes I got my second jab last Thursday (13th). My eldest daughter (40) had her first 2 weeks ago and so did my son in law who is also 40. My youngest daughter (36) has had both of hers and so has my husband. So I feel blessed that my family has been done. I'm meeting a friend tomorrow who is coming down from Newcastle and I'm staying overnight with her in a hotel for a good catch up. I'll still be cautious but it's starting to feel more normal.

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    1. Enjoy your time with your friend! We are slowly working on it over here in Canada, but all my immediate family has at least one dose - just two of us are fully done - they live in the US though!

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    2. Thank you. I hope you are getting out and about a little more too. X

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  3. Hi Tania,
    Sorry to hear about your husband, shocking news for you both, a lot for you to deal with. Very thoughtful of his boss.
    Marlene xx

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    1. Thank you Marlene. It's been a very trying time. He finishes finishes work today and I'm praying we get the operation quickly. X

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  4. Hi Tania, I sometimes wonder exactly WHAT it does take for men to realise that they are not immortal, I am having the same trouble with Alan at the moment, although not as serious as your hubby's. Why do men go to the doctors and then stop taking any prescribed medicine after only a couple of doses thinking they know best AND then complain that the doctors advice was wrong!

    I do hope now that the news has sunk in with your hubby he will be careful and follow medical advice fully. Perhaps having a snifter of his whisky is his sign to you that he does consider things serious. How good of his boss to sort out a retirement package, that at least is one stress off both your minds.

    Keep us informed, and don't be a stranger ... blogging can be a good safety valve for those thoughts that whizz around your head.

    Take care. xx

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    1. Thank you so much Sue. To top it all he had a diabetic review last week. The nurse told him his overall levels are too high and they wouldn't be doing any operations until this was sorted! I think that too was the telling off he needed. I cook healthy food, I count his carbs etc but then he adds chutneys, sweet sauces etc. I only buy rich tea biscuits now because he cant eat just one biscuit. He isnt over weight and extremely fit but there are things going on inside which what you see doesnt reflect. Plus you cant hide from your genes, they predispose you to all sorts of things. I'm hoping we get some decent weather soon, to start enjoying the garden.

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    2. Meant to say, I hope Alan is ok. Xx

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  5. Oh Tania what a shock (or maybe it shouldn't have been - who knows)! I would say just knowing what's wrong is half the battle and then they can deal with it. I'm sorry your plans have been put on hold but sending you big hugs and best wishes for your hubbie! Anna

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    1. Thanks Anna, it's the waiting around that's a real pain. The hospital he will have it done at is a pain to get to also. But we will get through it. X

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  6. Sorry to read your news.I do hope he gets his op soon.Thank goodness he had the angiogram.

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    1. Yes it just shows you that a heart attack could have happened before the diagnosis.

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  7. It always amazes me how so many men have to be hit over the head with a brick (figuratively speaking) before they get the seriousness of the situation. I hope everything works out for both of you.

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    1. I agree Janice, for dome reason they think they are invincible. Its certainly given him good for thought.

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  8. Sorry to hear about your husband Tania. On a positive note his insistence on a definite answer means he's going to get the operation he obviously needs before things get any worse. Hope he doesn't have to wait too long and I also hope you're managing to take care of yourself throughout all this. xx

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    1. Thanks Suzanne, I'm hoping he hasnt got yo wait too long too. I really hope Covid goes away and we can all get on with our lives.

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  9. men theyre just a constant worry , mines awaiting vascular appointments again but his GP scared him to death when she mentioned palliative care.

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    1. I should think the words palliative care did scare him. Despite all the diabetic information and advice he has been given over the last 40+ years he still uses chocolate as a carb. Yes there is sugar in it but there is also lots of fat! 2 jelly babies, job sorted.

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  10. What a lot to worry about. Hope you are taking some time for yourself and find a space for yourself. Best wishes.

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    1. I'm trying to make pockets of time for myself because I think I would go quite mad otherwise. I just wish we had some better weather so I can stuck into the garden.

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  11. Lots to think about and worry about.

    God bless.

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    1. I'm sure it will all be sorted in time but its the waiting thats the worst.

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  12. You do have a lot to cope with in your life! I hope it all works out ok.

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  13. Like others have said why do men wait to either see a doctor or even believe them.

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  14. Tania, I am so sorry, I missed this while away on holiday last week. Top say I am sorry at how things are going isn't helpful, I know. It's a lot to take ion and processing it all will take a while.
    Sending love and, as others have said, do find time for yourself too. You matter just as much.
    xx

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